|Posted by Victoria Inkster on March 1, 2018 at 3:25 PM||comments (71)|
For the past couple of years I have worked a full-time job on top of taking care of all my costume orders and this has kept me crazy busy. The good part about this busy is... the craziest periods are during the winter and these months fly by like they never even happened. As you can obviously tell I am not the biggest fan of winter.
Before I worked two important jobs I took time out each week just for me. I would spend 3 hours every Thursday morning with a great group of individuals at a local art gallery taking painting lessons. I discovered during these 3 hours that for this brief period of my life I was actually learning to live in the moment, enjoy each paint brush stroke as I listened to the pleasant and often times outragiously funny conversation going on around me. I miss this.
Do you take time out just for you? And if you do are you consumed with guilt because you have so much to do, like work, taking care of kids, chores? When I discussed with friends about my weekly painting class my friends often exclaimed their lack of time for anything of this nature. Thus meaning they were living their lives week to week working or doing for others and never taking a moment just to reflect and take pleasure for themselves. This has been my story for the past couple of years, but there is an end in sight for me and life will go back to the way it was, or a very much improved version of my previous life!
I am almost at the point where I can say good by to my day job and embrace my new business career of Costume Designer with great relish and enthusiam. This has been a tough road, but well worth the time and energy to get here. As I would often remind myself - Short term pain for long term gain. I appreciate my wonderful family for being so supportive of my lack of time to prepare meals, clean the house, do the laundery. I thank them all profusesly for stepping up and taking care of things while I went from office to costume shop every day.
When this big day arrives when I walk out of the office building for the very last time, you can bet your last dollar I will definitly be seen every Thursday morning, painting and laughing with my art friends, because I believe everyone of us deserves to be happy, to slow down and enjoy living in the precious moment. We all deserve the time to take for ourselves each week, without the burden of guilt.
All my costume orders will get done, meals will get made, sometimes I may not get the house as clean as I would like, but oh well, I would rather laugh and have fun with you then not have time because my house needs to be tended to.
Why am I writing this? because too few of you know the pleasure of living in the moment, how life for a brief period will slow done just for you if you would only take a planned few minutes to enjoy some fun for yourself. I want this for all of you. Life speeds by all too quickly, start planning now on how and when you will take a few moments each week to be you and only you.
Then please share with me the stories of this special time.
Your costume designer and friend
|Posted by Victoria Inkster on April 17, 2016 at 11:45 AM||comments (2)|
For years I struggled with trying to learn how to meditate properly. Why? Because I have read and been told many times the health benefits of meditating, To meditate calms the mind, body and refreshes the soul. My problem however is there are so many thoughts going on in my mind it is extremely difficult to remove them and empty my mind in preparation of calmness. As I work, and it is work to remove the thoughts, they each creep back in like little thought devils, pitch fork in hand challenging me everytime. Needless to say they win.
As I drive in to work in the mornings with my family, I quietly sit as a passenger, sipping my coffee and will often design costumes in my head. My family would converse with me and the radio would be on, yet when I am in this place everything else dissapears. My husband would marvel at how I can close the world and noises out so completely and he claims when he witnesses me during the drive I often have a very peaceful smile on my face.
It took awhile for me to recognize and I think it was my husband who pointed it out, that during these early morning drives when I am in what he calls my 'Happy Place' I am in fact meditating. My mind is calm, the little thoughts devils cannot get through and I feel at peace. Maybe meditating does not mean completely blanking out your mind, even though this does work for many, it can mean finding your happy place and living there briefly each day.
When I look back I used to calm my mind years ago by concentrating on an oil painting I would be working on. I would focus on each brush stroke, visioning the colours and the oil paint as it spread on the canvess, the blending and mixing of colours. Without realizing it I have in fact been meditating for years.
I encourage you if you have not had any success with meditating to find your happy place. Life often throws us curve balls that at times can knock us over so finding a healthy way of escaping these curve balls even for a moment now and then will give you strength to stand up and keep going.
I love creating and feel blessed to have discovered the joy of designing dance costumes.
I would love to hear about your meditation experiences. Maybe your methods are completely different from mine and I am always interested in trying new healthy ways to improve, mind, body and soul.
|Posted by Victoria Inkster on March 21, 2016 at 8:20 PM||comments (2)|
This past weekend was so rewarding, long hours, but so much fun to be working side by side with talented costume designers and seamstresses. I feel very fortunate to have found 3 exceptional ladies from across Canada to share my passion for costume creation.
For several years I worked in '"The Sewing Room" of a local ballet school. As a volunteer I worked on average 30 to 40 hours a week for about 10 months of the year for several years. My love of of costumes kept me there for much longer than I should have. Then change happened and the door of "The Sewing Room" closed on me and for about a year I felt a little lost. Not only did I lose my connection to "The Room" but to the people I shared The Room with. I would from time to time be at the dance school and look at "The Room" and feel sad, an outsider and after giving so much of myself this loss created a hole in my life. But what happens to holes? They get filled in and this time I filled my hole with new wonderful people and my new path with Victoria's Tutu.
One door closed and another opened and now I have so much to look forward to I can look back at "The Room" with fond memories, after all it
was due to my experience in the sewing room that opened this brand new exciting door and I look forward to sharing this costume journey with you.
Even though I have been - Victoria's Tutu for a couple of years, this feels like the beginning. With the launch of my new website I feel ready to share what I do and what I love with you.